Is sales shopping mania just human instinct?

What a day yesterday I experienced in the brimming, crowded, crazy Trafford centre in Manchester.
Everyone out for a bargain in the infamous boxing day sales here in the UK.

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It wasn’t a pleasant experience by any means, the shopping centre was impossible to navigate, people barging, elbows, knocked into, and this wasn’t even in a shop yet…..

You literally had to be on full alert just for a shopping experience…….

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Aggression out of control!

Seeing two young women actually fight over a pair of shoes in “Next” really was  incredible.
A boy was sitting on them while a women tried to pull them from under him and with that an altercation exploded between the adults, scary stuff!!!
All this aggression must of been coming from somewhere, how can we behave in such a barbaric way.

Psychologist do compare this kind of behave to that of our ancestors millions of years ago. The hunter, gatherer instinct taking over our usual civilised way of life.

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The need to stock pile!

The consumer expert and author of “consumerology”  ~Phililip Graves
   >>>>  http://bit.ly/1wt10co 
explains we have despite us thinking the opposite, the need to be better, just as cavemen competed for leader of the pack by stock piling, we think we must have something when actually we don’t, merely to be superior but in so many ways for the wrong reasons….

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It has been noted by scientists too that chemicals are released when shopping called dopamine, which enchaces mood. Fight or flight instinct is heighten, and once we see someone getting a bargain we think we should have the same.

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So next time I’m shopping in the sales I won’t be as surprised by the reaction of others but I will try and stop my behaviour becoming barbaric because I don’t need to stock pile.
I have more than enough clothes at least to last me a lifetime……

Do you have any sales shopping experiences to share?

Mandy.x

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“8” childhood Christmas memories from the 70s!

I was recently reminiscing with friends about our precious Christmas memories from childhood.
How we felt that excitement, anticipation, sheer wonder of Christmas night.
I remember we had pillow cases and we left them on the landing!
Waking several times in the night, thinking has he been yet, is it light yet……

Those amazing perhaps outrageous decorations, balloons on the pictures, concertined paper strings of all vibrant shades hung on the ceiling. Tinsel, all things sparkling!

What wonderful times they were, Nostalgia, vintage, call it what you want but one thing I remember is a warm happy feeling of a simple life without worries or complications.

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Presents didn’t arrive from a courier, we didn’t buy on line, there were amazing toy shops and then there was Woolworths……..

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I have complied a list of all the favourite things we received, the presents we remember, the ones that have stayed in our memories with such joyous delight of childhood wonder…….

1.Who doesn’t remember the wombles, the  iconic song ” The wombles of Wimbledon common are we “

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2. The infamous Raleigh Chopper bike, every boy in the neighbourhood wanted one…..

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3. My personal favorite “Daisy” the equivalent to Barbie. My sister decided to style Daisies hair on mine and cut it short, I’ve never forgiven her to this day!!

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4. Again every boy longed for a box of this Meccano…

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5. The famous selection box with the confectionery that’s now changed names, Marathon now Snickers!

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6. Tiny tears doll was one of my childhood favourites too. The equivalent of today’s Baby born!

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7. The girls Raleigh shopper bike with the cute bag on the back.

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8. Last but by no means least from the children’s programme “playschool” the character “Humpty Dumpty”

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         Memories that last a lifetime.

With all those wonderful feelings and thoughts from days gone by, let’s go make more precious memories for our children, grandchildren, nieces, nephews all children in our homes this Christmas eve and festive time.

Memories that stay with us for a lifetime, they are magical,spell bounding and our belief of such magic, such wonder, such enchantment shaped us into who we are today, we can always rely on these treasured, cherished memories whenever we need them…….
  

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Wishing all of you a wonderful Christmas and peaceful new year.

Mandy.x

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7 – Priceless things we take for granted!

This time next week it will be done and dusted and we’ll all be feeling a slight anti climax after Christmas.
Don’t despair though, we have so much to appreciate, we just need to look! Sometimes the priceless things in our lifes are the true wonders,the things we take for granted………

I have compiled my favourite “7” to help you keep positive after all the festivities!

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1. The beauty of the Sun its rise and fall gives us spectacular horizons. Especially this time of the year with the sun being so low.

2. A child’s delight at the magic of Santa’s arrival, their sheer marvel and wonderful priceless reaction.

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3. Feeling invigorated after an early morning run or brisk walk, your mind is clear and ready for the day ahead.

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4. Smiling at a complete stranger and getting a smile back, totally priceless….

Watch this video below in the link its hilarious but totally proves laughter when shared is wonderful……

>>>>>> http://bit.ly/1zHkksj

5. Singing in the car, shower ,bath and someone walking in or overhearing you. Alternatively stopping at the traffic lights and glancing to the other car and being embrassed, when realising they have been watching you singing your head off. Hilarious when vice versa as well!

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6. A hug from someone you love when you are feeling upset or just needing some affection.

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7. The beautiful smell of fragrant fresh roses and their vibrant colours and irregularities of nature.

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Appreciation.

There are so many more reasons to be appreciative of our lives, we just need to be aware.
Keep those thoughts in check and your life will transform for the better, really, try it!

Mandy

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How kind will you be this Christmas?

We all remember an act of kindness!

Even when young we respond to kindness and animals show it unconditionally, so why as adults do we sometimes forget to perform those random acts of  “kindness”

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It will soon be Christmas and most of us will be fortunate enough to share our time with family and friends.

Warmth, laughter, fun, generosity and not forgetting kindness will be in full flow, rightly so, its a wonderful time of the year ~ please excuse my corny phrase!!

However on a more serious note there will be thousand who won’t have such an amazing festive time!
 Its been reported in the news here in the UK that homeless children is at an all time high  >>>>>>> http:// http://m.england.shelter.org.uk/news/november_2014/90,000_children_in_britain_to_face_christmas_homeless

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Memories of wonderful, happy. joyous Yuletides are all stored in our minds. We can use these thoughts to comfort us in times of troubles but imagine not having them………

I’m not even for one minute under any kind of illusion that I can change the lives of so many people, but if only we all just engaged our focus away from what we need for a short while and consider others less fortunate!!!!

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Ways to perform those random acts of kindness!

1. We all know someone elderly living in our neighbourhood, we take it for granted usually because our lives are so busy, that the old lady living two doors down has a relative visiting regularly. That isn’t always the case, knock on their door, inquiry ask if they need any shopping doing.
They will be full of gratitude for your act of kindness and you will in return experience feelings of self worth.

2. Recently my daughter suggested we buy a drink for the homeless man sat on the floor outside a shop, when we were enjoying lunch in a coffee shop. This is an act of kindness that again we can all practice…….

3. We all buy new clothes so next time you do, go and donate something you no longer wear to either a charity shop or shelter.

4. Give someone a lift to the shops or even help someone with their bags.

5. Praise someone to their boss. If you experience kindness say in the form of even a kind word spoken while shopping from a worker there. Don’t hesitate spread that kindness.

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The list is endless and acts of kindness however large or small are never wasted…..

So this Christmas time let’s make a ripple of human kindness to fellow men and not forgetting we can learn many lessons from our animal friends!!!

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Do you have any interesting stories of random acts of kindness?

Mandy.

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My ideas on self confidence!

How do you do it? ”

Well this blog is truly transparent from my point of view ~ ” l am about to bare my confidence or lack of it in years gone by! ”

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A lot of people “quote” say ~
You always look so glam”
That really is a great thing to hear, I won’t lie and say it doesn’t flatter me because then I would be deceiving you all! After all we just want acceptance don’t we!

Self Confidence is the key to everything.

I’m going to let you into my secret, its my confidence that people see!

I wasn’t always happy with my own being, I did feel incredibly self conscious and l was painfully shy as a teenager and into my twenties.

We all try I suppose to some degree to analysise our behaviour and really this is our downfall and was mine.

Comparison of others to myself was another big issue.

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So how can we relieve these feelings of inadequatance.

1. Remember one important thing, everyone at sometime has these feelings of low self confidence. You must try and install self worth, try and think differently and tell yourself on a regular bases all the things that you like about yourself however small!
Positive thoughts will eventually bring a more positive you.

2. Exercise clears the mind even if its a brisk walk, regular is best and for 20mins at least. Once you have the mind clearer from doing focused exercise you’ll be able to think better and see how amazing you are. Not to forget that your body will benefit physically, therefore leading to a better mental image of your body thus more positive thoughts.

3. Smile and try to engage wherever possible, I actually talk to people in queues etc, everyone feels ackward sometimes but if you take the barriers down show your human side, people respond with warmth. A smile can make someone’s day, imagine the self worth that can give you.

4. Appearance is a personal thing but if you wear clothes that you like and fit correctly automatically your confidence will rise, whenever we have been to the hairdresser we feel better wouldn’t you agree? Self worth also enables you to like yourself enough to treat yourself to a new outfit.

5. Helpings others in a voluntary capacity works wonders on the soul, its gives gratitude to ourself  from others so we therefore receive self confidence.

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The only person in your mind, thinking your thoughts is you, so tell yourself how wonderful you are until you do begin to feel it.

Thoughts and feelings are all its really about…….

Well I hope I have given you some useful information, so that when you turn up at the office Christmas party you turn heads when the new confident you walks through the door.

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Do bare in mind though that arrogance isn’t attractive so keep it humble……..

Let me know how you get on in that new black dress you are going buy!!!

Mandy.

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How to be more confident this festive season!

  The jolly season!

It will soon be upon us ~“The season to be jolly” or rather for some quite the opposite!

Feeling under pressure this Christmas is totally normal and I myself remember getting in a panic!

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– Not only is there the pressure of present buying,  ~ “at that the perfect totally original gift for everyone”
– Then on top of that having to produce a delicious amazing Christmas lunch!!!
– Not forgetting decking the house out like Santas grotto!

Just where is there time to make sure you look amazing!! Arrrgh” I hear you scream in desperation

There is the works Christmas party, drinks with friends and then that all
important Christmas day outfit that you actually do that all important cooking in and still look a million dollars. Who wants to be a women at Christmas……?

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Relax I’ve got it covered!

First and foremost remember everyone is feeling the same, under pressure, the need for the perfect family get together and still look amazing!!
In reality it doesn’t matter if the brussels are a bit under cooked, Grandma doesn’t like her slippers or even if your mascara gets smudged!

1.Just smile, remember you’ll look back in five years and reminisce about what a  wonderful Christmas is was when……

2. Delegate where possible, even if its as simple as the children setting the table, let go of the control because you don’t need to be afraid if everything isn’t perfect!
After all you are only human!!!!

3. Set realistic time scales, plan ahead, write lists and very importantly do go and treat yourself to a new dress or top to wear because you are special and will look amazing if you believe in yourself and think you are deserving.
The most attractive Element in anyone is confidence!

4. Always have gratitude because we are lucky and check your thoughts when you feel that panic taking you to the wrong thought process. Evaluate and count your blessing!

5. Possibly the most important thing is to relax and have a wonderful time, because tomorrow is never a promise………..

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        Peace and goodwill to all!

Go make treasured memories, I’m going to, love, cherish, hug, embrace, dance, laugh and make it a “season to be jolly”

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What are your best memories of Christmas?

Mandy

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