Fifty shades of love…..


Shades of Grey…..

I had a fantastic girly night with some wonderful friends last night, it was an anticipation of sorts, giggles, laughter and fun.

Off to the cinema for the infamous “Fifty Shades of Grey”
I haven’t actually read the novels, probably only one of millions because it has been a world wide best seller so the only inkling of the plot that I had was the obvious ~ sex scenes were going to be frequently shown….

Shades of pizza.

Pizza first and a catch up was just the ticket and I did then enquire to a friend before hand about the story line really to get a bit of an idea and to my delight there was a deep baseline of psychology with the character Christian Grey….

There were I can’t deny a tremendous amount of women in the cinema, to be expected, the odd guy though and then a minority of the women who were incredibly irritating even by my standards….

Shades of understanding….

If I were a film critic and one who hadn’t previously read the novels I would review the film in a good light.

However there will be cynical, fickle remarks around the film that’s inevitable as controversies due to feminism….

Yes there is the story line of almost in fashion right now of dominant and submissive, but let’s look deeper into Christian Greys feelings.


Shades of fear….

Anastasia Steele is a romantic English literature student who falls in love with Christian, love being the operative word, his troubled past has scarred him into being unable to love…
There is the pleasure, the sex and bondage but for me the real message just from this first movie is love.

I’m hoping the other two novels uncover and add more of an insight into the dominant role which in my opinion he is fundamentally just hiding behind….

This isn’t for me a film, novel or story of misogyny but more a love story unfolding in our modern world…

I hope I won’t be disappointed with the next chapters, if you haven’t yet been go and see the film its worth it…..

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Can music help with Alzheimer’s?

For anyone that has experienced the effects of in my opinion, the cruelest of disease’s Alzheimer’s, then you’ll totally understand when I say that if only one person reads this blog and takes comfort then I’ve achieved my goal…


                   My mum.

I grew up in a loving wonderful family with siblings older than me so therefore I guess you could say I was somewhat spoilt!
We were a typical average working class family in the 70s, life was good.
My siblings went on to be hugely successful mainly down to the support of my parents in their formative years.

However this story isn’t about my siblings or me for that matter, its about my mother and father and how the dreadful diesese Alzheimer’s has infected our family.

      Emotional fallout!

The mixture of emotions felt are indescribable, the person you know and love is still there before you however they are so incredibly different!
Alzheimer’s isn’t purely just about memory loss, there are mood swings from suicidal to child like behaviour, paranoia and illusions.

Helplessness is a common feeling of those close to someone with this destructive mind robbing disease, I really would not wish it upon my worst enemy!

         Music magic.

I recently read an article claiming music especially if headphones are worn can help the sufferer.
When each day has no silver lining anything however small is hope.

With this idea in mind, off I set to get the help of my son to put together an album of her favorite tracks from back then.
It was incredible the effect the music had on her mood, up dancing, it was almost as if she had been transformed back in time……..
The article I read was by “Alzheimer’s Foundation Of America (AFA)” and is very informative, have a look yourself by following the link below :

There is no cure at this present time for Alzheimer’s or other dementia related diseases such as vascular dementia.

We can only hold on to each day and cherish those lucid days and if music is a tool to stimulation then I’m in…..


For everyone out their who is living and caring for someone who is suffering from Alzheimer’s, keep strong.
Always ask for help and cherish your special memories of them forever…..

Please feel free to add your own personal comments on your own experiences of Alzheimer’s, let’s help each other!


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