Photography by Mac Reddin.
Well its been a week long subject of love and valentine’s weekend most categorically has saturated us all with bags full oozing with Love.
I’m not saying there is anything wrong with all this surrounding of affection and warmth most definitely not, especially with such hatred and violence in our world of today…..
I did however feel my blogging subject would change today but there is something in the air from all this positivity and so I’m embracing the energy and writing again on the theme of love…..
It will be the last for a while, promise!
Languages of love….
I stumbled upon literally earlier an article about the five languages of love ~
“The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate” is a 1995 book by Gary Chapman.
Link below to Wikipedia ~
Five different ways we interpret love.
Thinking back to thoughts and feelings and how we are in control of these, our own thought process, well it kind of made sense to me that we all do interpret things differently.
After all isn’t that where we go wrong in relationships by trying to reflect our own thoughts onto others instead of just listening to our own and aligning with them.
These five languages can apply to your personal relationship, family, friends and work relationships too…
So the different languages are ~
1. Words of affirmation..
Some people are affected greatly by the spoken word and so if words of appreciation are spoken to them more often they will feel more loved
Well worth a try I’d say….
2. Acts of service..
The saying actions speak louder than words, definitely apply here.
Washing the car, making a coffee helping with daily chores are all ways you could show this type of language of love receiver that they are loved…
3. Receiving gifts….
The actual act of showering someone with presents and gifts, I do find this one rather difficult to get my head around.
Only because for me objects don’t really guarantee happiness but remember I am telling this story from a book and I don’t have to agree fully with its entirety.
4. Quality time.
I have heard of sitting down and giving full attention to someone for 20 minutes, holding eye contact, conversing and actually listening is real quality time instead of just being there in person but not mind.
Technology has no doubt played havoc with this language of love, mobile phones take a lot of attention away from real time spent together.
Perhaps consider this if you think you know someone who needs this language to feel loved…
5. Physical touch.
We all know the power of a hug when we are upset or a pat on the back when having maybe won a sporting event and handshakes say so much about someone.
So for this language, hugging, holding hands and much deeper affection if this is your special personal relationship will confirm to this type person that they are loved….
Well I hope this has given you an insight into how different people interpret affection differently and that their energy reacts to different stimulus.
Let’s go and see if we can interpret how our close friends and family receive signals…
Which language works best for you?